We may be imagining all sorts of problems that may or may not exist or we’re rationalising our own boundaries, values, and even prior experiences of being in one of these situations (so knowing that we may struggle with the emotional consequences) and are thinking along the lines of, ‘Well…I’m of a certain age so I need to prepare myself for turning a blind eye to any code amber / red actions and indications because people in this age group tend to be recently broken up / separated / divorced‘. There’s no easy answer to the question of what the ‘right time’ is for dating a separated or recently divorced person.If you chose to proceed in dating him, I caution you to proceed slowly and with eyes wide open. Comments like, “Bah, I just want it over,” or “Doesn’t matter, we’ve been strangers for years,” may seem casual, even confident — but they also mask what’s going on underneath and behind the scenes.When a man has truly processed his divorce and moved on, he should be able to speak to it with compassion, kindness, and wisdom.
Sometimes our relationships end abruptly through death or betrayal. Whatever the reason you find yourself single now, it’s important to heal and understand that it does take time for you to be ready to get involved with someone new. You sign up for an online dating site, hoping to find someone to ease the pain and help you move on.
With the "slow it down warning" emblazoned on the relationship, let's look at the possible pitfalls your man presents.
The first question that must be answered is: Why is he getting a divorce and what is the timeline?
He also couldn’t sign up for marriage so soon after his wife had betrayed him and he spent years in litigation. When one had a happy marriage, they tend to want to be married again.
To this day, he thanks me for helping him start his life over. It isn’t about replacing someone, but adding someone into your life to create a new chapter with. P., try not to compare the new person in your life to the old one.