But what he’s really doing his projecting his feelings about his ex onto a new girl – in a sense, he’s using the new girl. Have you ever felt like your new BF maybe isn’t over his ex? By that I mean did it happen in the last month or so?People who go into rebound relationships don’t go into them with the intention of using someone or hurting someone else. If so, that's probably the biggest warning sign of a rebound relationship, especially if he was in a long-term relationship right before he met you.I have had a conversation with the new guy, and he is understanding and patient – but I also don’t want to keep him hanging on. But I applaud you for getting out there instead of pining away for a guy who demonstrated his lack of integrity by going straight into the arms of your friend. And then, when it comes time to step things up, they bail because they weren’t “really” ready to be committed for life. These are not bad people; they are driven by their emotions and are doing the best they can.
You may not realize it or want to take it further, but it’s all the first few stages of a rebound relationship.
When you break up, the only logical thing to do is to get over it or try to get over it by having a great time doing something that keeps you preoccupied.
So what if you have to flirt with someone or fall in love with someone else to feel happy and nice all over again?
That strange, occasionally awkward and sometimes delicate balance after a breakup where we have to stop and ask ourselves, “Am I ready to be dating someone again or is this person part of a phase I’m going through while residual emotions from my last relationship are still being sorted out?
” It’s a tricky thing, because there will always be elements of your old relationship stirred up a little by a new one.